In her book The Willpower Instinct, Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal describes three aspects of motivation to change: WILLPOWER, WON’TPOWER, and WANTPOWER. The goal of the book is to help persons develop self-control. I have found these categories extremely helpful. I’d like to share my slight adaptation and an application: Willpower speaks to our volitional capacity (decision making/personal agency), Won’tPower speaks to our evaluative capacity (controlled by conscience), and Wantpower speaks to our transformational capacity (connected to desire and imagination). Recently I have used these categories to address problematic (unwanted) sexual behavior. As soul care providers, if we stop short of helping
Along the way in our journey, God in his grace, provides a variety of gifts. One of the most valued gifts God gives is that of the presence of a grace filled person. CrossPoint Ministry began its ministry in 1996 following my 25 years of pastoral ministry. As our ministry grew, we were in need of an administrator to help us with the myriad of details that a busy and growing ministry must navigate. God in his grace, provided Marilyn Moore, who for more than a decade has served CrossPoint as our Executive Administrator. Recently, Marilyn announced that she
Aquinas the great theologian of the of the 13the century relied upon Psalm 36:9 to guide him in his great theological endeavors. “For with You is the fountain of life: in Your light do we see light.” C.S. Lewis was a follower of Christ because he held that Jesus enabled him to see what was most real and true. God’s light enables us to see. My recent times of mediation have me reflecting on the significance of the fruits of the Spirit. Paul encourages believers to walk by the Spirit (Gal. 5:16). Walking by the Spirit arms us to
In the journey of Christian Spiritual Formation, when everything is shifting on the inside of our souls, like shifting sands of the sea, there is typically shifting in our external world as well. It can either paralyze us or inspire us to move forward one step at a time. Choosing to sit still to “Be with God” is not a posture of paralysis. It is a position of honoring God, the Father; God, the Son; and God, the Holy Spirit who live within us. Yet, when we are working, serving, or playing, these are also positions of honoring His
One of our family traditions when we are able to be together at Thanksgiving is to go to a Christmas tree farm the following day, go on the “hayride” tractor to choose the tree, then 1-2 members of the family collaborate to cut down the tree. Hot apple cider is usually served at the farm, then we head home to “trim the tree.” Hanging the ornaments on the tree is a reminder of life that we have lived together for each has a particular meaning or memory attached to it. Glass ornaments that are from one of our grandparents’
When going for a morning walk last week I notice an unusual sight on the sidewalk. There were hundreds of dead worms. Strange. I’ve seen a few on the sidewalk before but nothing like this. I wondered what caused them to die there. After a couple miles I seem to stumble on what I thought was a reasonable answer. Worms need moisture. And we haven’t had rain in a week. Instead of doing the hard work of digging their way into the sod of the lawns they seemed to be seduced by the heavy dew that was on the
My grandson spent the last few days with us. I always learn in his presence. This time what struck me is that his 23 month brain demands that he repeat and re-repeat whatever is on his mind. And re-re-repeat! So when he thinks of the dog he will say 'dog' again and again. When he remembers throwing bread to the ducks three days ago he says 'throw' again and again. When he wants his dad or mom you can be sure he will make that known. Some years ago Eugene Peterson wrote, "A Long Obedience in the Same Direction."