In her book The Willpower Instinct, Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal describes three aspects of motivation to change: WILLPOWER, WON’TPOWER, and WANTPOWER. The goal of the book is to help persons develop self-control. I have found these categories extremely helpful. I’d like to share my slight adaptation and an application: Willpower speaks to our volitional capacity (decision making/personal agency), Won’tPower speaks to our evaluative capacity (controlled by conscience), and Wantpower speaks to our transformational capacity (connected to desire and imagination). Recently I have used these categories to address problematic (unwanted) sexual behavior. As soul care providers, if we stop short of helping
Two weekends ago CrossPoint hosted retreat 5 (out of 8) for our current Deeper Journey community. The topic was ‘desire’ and it certainly touched a nerve. The Bible repeatedly speaks to importance of desire, having our desires met by God, avoiding sinful desires, pursuing our deepest desires. Jesus asked the lame man, “What do you want me to do for you?” The answer seems obvious. “I want to walk so please heal me.” It seems Jesus is pointing us to the importance of naming our desires. There is the question of what desires are legitimate to pursue and what
“The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore.” –Vincent Van Gogh “Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men.” – Jesus As Christians (little Christs) we know that life is a spiritual battleground and the opposition to God’s love can seem tremendous. However, we too like fishermen, have never found these dangers good reason to stay on the sidelines. We are drawn and compelled to enter into our spheres of influence and fish for what is true, noble, and good about
For two mornings this week I have awakened to this verse going through my mind. Psalm 90:17 (KJV) “Let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us. Establish Thou the work of our hands; Establish Thou the work of our hands. It’s a familiar verse that is quoted in the Midday prayer that we have often quoted through the years for the Deeper Journey retreats. I also have it in song form by the Northumbria Community in England. Actually, the song is what awakened me from my dreams both of those mornings. I’ve often been struck by this
On the last day of the feast, the great day, Jesus stood up and cried out, “If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink. - John 7:37 I am struck with this simple and beautiful invitation from Jesus. It addresses four important issues. SELF WORTH Anyone…Yes anyone. Including you? Yes. Including me? Yes. As humans created in the image of God we have the dignity and worth to approach the Savior. God desires all to be saved. NEED Thirsts… Feels a need and wants something more. God I am so thirsty in this broken world. I feel
All of us want change...just not the painful transition. There is so much I would love to change about myself immediately, yet spiritual progress seems glacially slow at best. If I know what needs to be changed now, then what is the hold up? My desires. A lessor desire can only be dethroned by a greater one. That is the issue. Cognitively I may want to change but affectively my desires are still held in check by lessor loves. It seems that the way forward is to contemplatively steep my desires in love for God, which is more of
Martin Luther King, much like Martin Luther centuries ago and the Apostle John and the Old Testament prophets of old, had a vision of a different future. They had a dream of what life might look like when the kingdom of God is more fully lived on earth. They called people to live that reality. We cannot live well without a vision, without a dream, without hope of something better. At so many levels and in so many places we see the brokenness, suffering, and sin of people on the edge of the vision. Indeed, all of us need
Thanksgiving is upon us and with it comes the requisite gatherings with family and friends, or not. These spaces of holiday gatherings can be either interesting or disinteresting. The usual suspects arrive and tell the usual stories with the usual chatter. What could make these interactions different or interesting? The following poem leads us in a beautiful invitation to have an interesting holiday with whomever we are with and most importantly ourself. The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream
Have we lost our capacity for imagination as Christians? Have we assigned imagination to child’s play but now of course we are adults so we set aside childish ways? Imagination is about pretend, we all know that. We use our imagination for fantasy. Imagination takes us into the world of the improbable and the impossible. Adult life has to face what is real and not engage in some imaginary goose chase. So this is how many have come to think about imagination. Could there be more to imagination than what we imagine? Imagination is a faculty or capacity of the mind. We all use our imagination.
I’ve never competed at a high level. I felt the weight of spelling competitions in elementary school. And the pressure of going 14 and 0 on our middle school softball team. And the strain of getting sermons ready week in and week out for many years. But I’ve never felt anything like the Olympic pressure of putting everything on the line after years of preparation for that one chance. For the swimming events, the difference between gold and bronze is often just a few tenths of a second. And then there are the women gymnasts on the balance beam.