11 09, 2019

Leveraging WantPower on the Journey of Transformation… a post by Clif Roth

By |2019-09-11T21:27:41-04:00September 11th, 2019|Body, Character, Creation, Dark Night, Desire, Hope, Human, Imagination, Sexuality, Uncategorized|0 Comments

In her book The Willpower Instinct, Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal describes three aspects of motivation to change:  WILLPOWER, WON’TPOWER, and WANTPOWER.  The goal of the book is to help persons develop self-control.  I have found these categories extremely helpful.  I’d like to share my slight adaptation and an application:   Willpower speaks to our volitional capacity (decision making/personal agency), Won’tPower speaks to our evaluative capacity (controlled by conscience), and Wantpower speaks to our transformational capacity (connected to desire and imagination).  Recently I have used these categories to address problematic (unwanted) sexual behavior. As soul care providers, if we stop short of helping

14 11, 2018

Meals of Communion…a post by Joy

By |2018-11-14T16:38:39-04:00November 14th, 2018|Beauty, Body, Community, Gifts, Human, Physicality, Sacramental Perspective, Thankfulness|1 Comment

From my own experience, It really is true that to share a meal with someone is an opportunity of reminding us that we are in communion with Christ. It’s interesting to me that a number of times in Scripture, including the story of the angels who appeared to Abraham to announce to him that he and Sarai would become parents in their ripe “old age”, this bit of news was delivered in a setting around the experience of a meal. The first miracle performed by Jesus was in the venue of a wedding feast, a celebration with others. Yet

29 05, 2018

God is with me in the shifting…a post by Joy

By |2018-05-29T17:04:44-04:00May 29th, 2018|Character, Clarity, Decisions, Fear, Future, Hebrews 13:5, Human, Humility, Listening, Prayer, Presence, Stillness, Surrender, Trust and Faith|0 Comments

In the journey of Christian Spiritual Formation, when everything is shifting on the inside of our souls, like shifting sands of the sea, there is typically shifting in our external world as well. It can either paralyze us or inspire us to move forward one step at a time. Choosing to sit still to “Be with God” is not a posture of paralysis. It is a position of honoring God, the Father; God, the Son; and God, the Holy Spirit who live within us. Yet, when we are working, serving, or playing, these are also positions of honoring His

17 04, 2017

Never a Monday Like Today…a post by Jim

By |2017-04-17T19:14:11-04:00April 17th, 2017|Creation, Easter, Human, Humility, Living in the now, Physicality, Responsibility, Self-Clarity|1 Comment

Easter weekend is over. It is Monday. Now what? I can only imagine the despair that the crucifixion brought to those who loved and followed Jesus. Saturday did nothing to change their shock, anger, and sorrow. But an empty tomb, appearances to the women and the followers on the road to Emmaus changed everything. Jesus was alive! His resurrection re-energized their lives in an unbelievable way to do unbelievable things. In her wonderful book, A Theology of the Ordinary, Julie Canlis highlights the ‘culture (and cult) of the extraordinary’ in American and many churches. The point she makes is

13 03, 2017

Once, even Twice or Three Times, is NEVER Enough!…a post by Jim

By |2017-03-14T18:29:21-04:00March 13th, 2017|Character, Community, family systems, Human, Presence, Virtue|1 Comment

My grandson spent the last few days with us. I always learn in his presence. This time what struck me is that his 23 month brain demands that he repeat and re-repeat whatever is on his mind. And re-re-repeat! So when he thinks of the dog he will say 'dog' again and again. When he remembers throwing bread to the ducks three days ago he says 'throw' again and again. When he wants his dad or mom you can be sure he will make that known. Some years ago Eugene Peterson wrote, "A Long Obedience in the Same Direction."

28 02, 2017

Empathy vs Sympathy…a video post by Tom

By |2017-02-28T18:25:54-04:00February 28th, 2017|Animals, Community, Discernment, Emotions, Empathy, family systems, Human, Listening, Loneliness|1 Comment

Check out the following short video illustrating the important difference between empathy and sympathy.  Now ask the question which one is God? Which one are you? Imagine how the quality of our relationships  would improve if we embodied this…and thus the quality of our lives.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

16 02, 2017

Let’s Get Physical…a post by Jim

By |2017-02-16T18:09:26-04:00February 16th, 2017|Body, Creation, Human, Physicality, Responsibility|1 Comment

  This past weekend I had the honor and privilege of visiting my father who was turning 90 years old. He said he never thought he would make it to such an old age. But he is very grateful for the health that he has, the people in his life who love and care for him, and his interests that are still alive and well within his soul (he still loves to read, to paint, to work in his wood shop!). While reminiscing with him and visiting with two uncles and aunts (all are close to 90 years of

23 11, 2016

A Thanksgiving Invitation…by Tom and Oriah Mountain Dreamer

By |2016-11-23T14:46:01-04:00November 23rd, 2016|Community, Desire, Emotions, Human, Imagination, Relational Design, Self-Clarity, Thanksgiving|1 Comment

Thanksgiving is upon us and with it comes the requisite gatherings with family and friends, or not. These spaces of holiday gatherings can be either interesting or disinteresting.  The usual suspects arrive and tell the usual stories with the usual chatter.  What could make these interactions different or interesting?  The following poem leads us in a beautiful invitation to have an interesting holiday with whomever we are with and most importantly ourself.  The Invitation by Oriah Mountain Dreamer It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream

14 09, 2016

Sitting Still With Christ…a post by Joy

By |2016-09-14T00:45:55-04:00September 14th, 2016|Burnout, Human, Sleep, Spiritual Coaching, Trinity, Universe, Vision|1 Comment

As we consider the ways of Christian spiritual formation, there is always one particular facet of the journey that mesmerizes and challenges me the most. The one of “sitting still” before God with the expectation and intention of knowing God. Psalm 46:10 tells us to “Be still and know that I AM God. “ It seems that many Christians are interested in being “busy about the business of God”. Even family life is busy about the “business of family” instead of intentionally taking time to “be still” and know the family member. Stillness can refer to literally being still

23 08, 2016

Perfectly imperfekt…a post by Tom

By |2016-08-23T20:56:31-04:00August 23rd, 2016|Burnout, Creation, Discernment, Emotions, Fear, Human, Humility, Love, Presumption, Self-Clarity, Suffering|0 Comments

Why can’t anything or anyone be perfect? Why can’t this thing go the way it is supposed to? The long answer involves all the flaws, shortcomings, mistakes, sins, errors, and imperfections in every given person and situation. The short answer is because that every person or thing is not God. Seems like God put Himself in a bind by creating anything because anything created would always fall short of the Creator. After all only God is good. Even without sin entering the picture everything still falls short of the full glory of God! It is refreshing to know that

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