Taken from The Relational Soul – It is in our closest relationships that our attachment pattern and learned level of intimacy shows up most dramatically. We can meet a stranger on the sidewalk and be courteous and kind. But work in business with someone, serve in ministry with someone, live in a marriage with someone and our “stuff” begins to show. When it does we can make commitments to connect better, be more kind, to spend more time with each other, to not let another hit our emotional buttons (the list goes on and on). But more often than not we
I (Jim) am reading Jonathan Edwards on Beauty during Lent. Yes, Lent is historically a time when Christians face their need for the cross of Christ as we prepare for Easter week. We give up things in order to feel our compulsions. I’m all for that. But I’m going at things differently this year based on my dad’s words to me when I was a kid–if you want to see if a stick is crooked put it beside a straight one.
The book of Jude is only 25 verses long. But the last two verses record one the most powerful and beautiful doxologies in all the Bible. “Now to him who is able to keep you from stumbling and to present you before the presence of his glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, and dominion, and authority before all time and now and forever more. Amen.” Breathtaking! Jude sweep us up into the magnificence and beauty of God’s redeeming and restoring work.
Have you noticed the danger inherent in the phrase, “falling in love?” I like the love part, but not the “falling” part. I’ve taken some really bad spills as a kid and as an adult. Winding up bloody and bruised is no fun. Couldn’t there be a better term than “falling” to symbolize the beauty and excitement of romantic love? The answer is ‘no’. Falling is exactly the imagery needed for this transcendent experience. Why? Because the mystery of love requires losing our balance. It requires relinquishing control. It demands the vulnerability opening our soul to another.
Some years ago I heard of cat and dog 'theology'. Reducing theological perspectives to generalities about cats and dogs is anthropomophism to extreme (is there such a category as 'animalmorphism'?!). But I never forgot it! In part because I think in simple terms. In part because of my experience with cats and dogs. I acknowledge that my experience has led me to a generalization which may not match your experience. But here is mine. 'Ace' is the cat. Ace belongs to my daughter who left for college six years ago. Ace didn't leave. So now for almost 13 years Ace has given me
We sustain ourselves in an encounter. It is so because we are created in the image of the Triune God. Father, Son, and Spirit ARE perfect relationship, glorious and holy love. Each cannot BE without the Other. In the likeness of the Truth of divine intimacy each human being is 'fired' into life. We find ourselves and maintain ourselves in communion. We must encounter. The love of the Trinity is absolute (unconditional) and thus utterly free. Divine love does not measure the love of another in terms of how much the other's love benefits the One doing the loving.