In her book The Willpower Instinct, Stanford University psychologist Kelly McGonigal describes three aspects of motivation to change: WILLPOWER, WON’TPOWER, and WANTPOWER. The goal of the book is to help persons develop self-control. I have found these categories extremely helpful. I’d like to share my slight adaptation and an application: Willpower speaks to our volitional capacity (decision making/personal agency), Won’tPower speaks to our evaluative capacity (controlled by conscience), and Wantpower speaks to our transformational capacity (connected to desire and imagination). Recently I have used these categories to address problematic (unwanted) sexual behavior. As soul care providers, if we stop short of helping
A couple months ago I wrote a post about the importance our bodies in spiritual formation. I’m coming back to the same topic because I just can’t get it out of my mind (and my body!). What Your Body Knows about God (Rob Moll ...If you are interested in more on the body and its impact on formation I strongly encourage you to read it) is also at work in my reflections on the body. As I have read it (and pay attention to my own experience) I am more and more convinced that our bodies REALLY influence the
Recently CrossPoint hosted Cohort #4 of our Soul Care Institute. About 25 soul care persons (pastors, small group leaders, counselors, coaches, etc.) are committed to meeting eight times over the course of two years to discuss matters that are crucial to Christian soul care. Over the course of the two and a half days we have some wonderful discussions and clarifications. The topic for this cohort is “The Embodied Soul.” We explored the nature and role of the body in the process of sanctification. While we know we are to keep our bodies from sin we often do not
Taken from The Relational Soul – Maleness and femaleness is the fundamental way in which we carry our relational design. Interestingly, the English word “sexuality” comes from the Latin word sexus which means, “being divided, cut off, separated from another.” We typically don’t think of sexuality in terms of separation, but that is precisely what it is. Our sexual desire, drive, and energy show we are separated and long to be connected (both physically and emotionally).